Let Your Haters be Your Motivators

The Real Housewives of Atlanta. I hate that show. It's a trainwreck and those idiots give "The Atl" a REALLY BAD name. (Side note: I don't "watch" it religiously, but if I catch it while channel surfing, I'll watch it -- that whole trainwreck thing.) Anyway, almost every single one of those ladies (black and white) are pure trash in one way or the other. They never cease to amaze me that they really do think they are "classy Atlanta socialites", and they are so far from that.

If you have to brag that "I'm not keeping up with the Jones's, I AM the Jones's", then sweetheart, you are NOT the Jones's. "The Jones's" wouldn't brag about their status. I think NeNe said that. (??) And as you probably already know, real Atlanta socialites-housewives wouldn't dare be on that show. These girls are "new money", and that's all well and peachy, but the "old money" would not be caught dead on that show.

But, I digress. Sorry about the mini-rant.

Anyway, one of the "housewives" said something that caught my attention. She said to one of the other ladies: "Let your haters be your motivators".

And I loved it! Because it's so true. When someone tells you that you can't do something...let that motivate you to do it. When they say you can't be a the kind of person that you want to be... let that be the motivation to be the person you want to be. When they say that you couldn't possibly acheive the goal that you've set....fucking achieve it and more.

Do you see where I'm going with this? Never let the negativity deter you from your goals, dreams and ambitions.

Never.

That is all.

Sparkles 'n kisses!

A woman should have...

I swear by these rules...so I thought I'd share them with you:

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a youth she's content to leave behind....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a feeling of control over her destiny..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
when to try harder... and when to walk away...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that her childhood may not have been perfect..but it's over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to live alone, even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go... be it to her best friend's kitchen table... or a charming inn in the woods... when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she can and can't accomplish in a day... a month...and a year...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to put together a thousand dollar outfit...with just $100.00...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to say "no" and not have to explain why...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that if your partner can't cook...teach him/her how...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that you are a fabulous, and beautiful, creature...and you should never doubt that...

Sparkles 'n kisses!

How to NOT be Fabulous

Fabulous is good. Fabulous if fun! Fabulous is another word for confidence... in yourself. You don't have to dress to the nines to be fabulous. You don't have to look perfect to be fabulous. You don't even have to have the perfect life. You just have to feel it, own it and be able to roll with the punches. And to know, within yourself, that you are one damn fabulous woman.

Am I perfect? God no. Do I wear the best clothes money can buy? Heck no. Am I the most beautiful woman in the world? Please! But am I confident and fierce? Absolutely! That's not to say that there are times when I don't feel it. But for the most part, I do. Because when you feel good about yourself (both outwardly, and especially inside), it shows! And your days are so much better! Own the fierce-ness. If you see that in you, others will see it in you as well. But if you don't? They will also see that.

So, if you want to be fabulous (have confidence), here are a few things on what NOT to do:

1 - If you feel terrible (as in your heart), don't go out in public looking like you dressed to stay in bed. If you want to dress to stay in bed, then just stay in bed. Otherwise, fix yourself up! It will make you feel a little better about whatever situation that you are going through and it won't make others feel uncomfortable that you look SO upset. Keep all the upset within the confines of your home, or your girlfriends home, where you can talk in a more private setting.

2 - Do not make up fake profiles (and then put your real name on it), that have no blogs, no pictures and zero friends listed, but then constantly update your status all for one particular person to see. Oh my God, that is just C-R-E-E-P-Y! And that person? They're gonna be laughing at you! And then everyone will know, and those who don't will hear about it soon enough, that you made a fake profile for one specific purpose and one purpose only. You may think you're fabulous, but this takes your fabulous-ness down several levels that will take a while to get back. It looks desperate, shows may-jah insecurity, and implies that you really don't have your mental shit together. So just don't do it.

3 - Slouching. Runny/streaked/leftover makeup. Hair not fixed. Big no-no's. Stand up straight and fix that make up and hair! If you absolutely cannot make yourself get ready, at least pull your hair back in to a classy and simple ponytail, apply mascara, blush and a light lipstick or gloss. It's amazing what just a little mascara alone can do to brighten up your eyes (and face)!

4 - Don't act like a bitch. Seriously. There is a difference between fabulous (again, confidence) and bitchy. There's no faster way to rub people the wrong way than being a bitch. Now, I'm not saying that if the situation REALLY calls for it, that you don't act like one when you need to. But 99% of the time, you really don't need to.

5 - Don't walk in to a room/bar/restaurant/etc. like you're timid. That's a good way to have no one even notice you've walked in. Walk in like you OWN it. Hold your head up, straighten your back, be smiling when you walk in, and say hello to everyone you knowas you pass them headed to your seat. Never be a wallflower. Be a social butterfuly! Speak up and talk to people! Have a good time!

Now, I could go on and on with this, but you get the point.

The bottom line is the minute you walk out your door, own the fabulosity. Even if you feel crappy, owning your fabulous-ness/confidence will make you feel tons better; not seem like a hot mess.

Sparkles 'n kisses!

Welcome to my world!

Hey y'all!

Welcome to my new site! I'm very excited to finally have it up and running! It's been a labor of love and labels (and a lot of thinking it over) to get this going. You'll notice some tweaks here and there as we go along until I'm completely satisfied with the end result, but for the most part, it's a done deal.

Here I'm going to bring you my love of The Four F's: Family, Friends, Food and Fashion. When there is an important event in my life, you'll hear about it here. Fun times with friends (and the Macon night life) - you'll see pictures of it here. I will showcase the restaurants (local and surrounding areas) that I frequent, and even some new ones that I will be checking out in the near future. My thoughts on the food, service, and atmosphere will all be here. You may even see a picture or two of the place!

And the fashion. Oh, the fashion! You are going to see parts of my wardrobe as I add to it and maybe even some fierce new items that I could never afford, but would be oh so sweet to have. And you never know... I just might find a pair of shoes that I would be willing to give up a weeks salary for. I mean, come on - every woman should have a pair of Christian Louboutin's before they die!

In other words, all that's fabulous in my world, you'll find it here. Whatever I may be writing about, it will all have an element of fabulous-ness.

So sit back, relax and let's get this party started - and start rockin' the fabulosity!

Sparkles 'n kisses!