How to NOT be Fabulous

Fabulous is good. Fabulous if fun! Fabulous is another word for confidence... in yourself. You don't have to dress to the nines to be fabulous. You don't have to look perfect to be fabulous. You don't even have to have the perfect life. You just have to feel it, own it and be able to roll with the punches. And to know, within yourself, that you are one damn fabulous woman.

Am I perfect? God no. Do I wear the best clothes money can buy? Heck no. Am I the most beautiful woman in the world? Please! But am I confident and fierce? Absolutely! That's not to say that there are times when I don't feel it. But for the most part, I do. Because when you feel good about yourself (both outwardly, and especially inside), it shows! And your days are so much better! Own the fierce-ness. If you see that in you, others will see it in you as well. But if you don't? They will also see that.

So, if you want to be fabulous (have confidence), here are a few things on what NOT to do:

1 - If you feel terrible (as in your heart), don't go out in public looking like you dressed to stay in bed. If you want to dress to stay in bed, then just stay in bed. Otherwise, fix yourself up! It will make you feel a little better about whatever situation that you are going through and it won't make others feel uncomfortable that you look SO upset. Keep all the upset within the confines of your home, or your girlfriends home, where you can talk in a more private setting.

2 - Do not make up fake profiles (and then put your real name on it), that have no blogs, no pictures and zero friends listed, but then constantly update your status all for one particular person to see. Oh my God, that is just C-R-E-E-P-Y! And that person? They're gonna be laughing at you! And then everyone will know, and those who don't will hear about it soon enough, that you made a fake profile for one specific purpose and one purpose only. You may think you're fabulous, but this takes your fabulous-ness down several levels that will take a while to get back. It looks desperate, shows may-jah insecurity, and implies that you really don't have your mental shit together. So just don't do it.

3 - Slouching. Runny/streaked/leftover makeup. Hair not fixed. Big no-no's. Stand up straight and fix that make up and hair! If you absolutely cannot make yourself get ready, at least pull your hair back in to a classy and simple ponytail, apply mascara, blush and a light lipstick or gloss. It's amazing what just a little mascara alone can do to brighten up your eyes (and face)!

4 - Don't act like a bitch. Seriously. There is a difference between fabulous (again, confidence) and bitchy. There's no faster way to rub people the wrong way than being a bitch. Now, I'm not saying that if the situation REALLY calls for it, that you don't act like one when you need to. But 99% of the time, you really don't need to.

5 - Don't walk in to a room/bar/restaurant/etc. like you're timid. That's a good way to have no one even notice you've walked in. Walk in like you OWN it. Hold your head up, straighten your back, be smiling when you walk in, and say hello to everyone you knowas you pass them headed to your seat. Never be a wallflower. Be a social butterfuly! Speak up and talk to people! Have a good time!

Now, I could go on and on with this, but you get the point.

The bottom line is the minute you walk out your door, own the fabulosity. Even if you feel crappy, owning your fabulous-ness/confidence will make you feel tons better; not seem like a hot mess.

Sparkles 'n kisses!